7 Ways to Show Appreciation to Your Significant Other
With a 9 to 5 grind, there are quite a lot of things that go on the back burner. We might slack on our exercise routine, let the laundry pile up, or become so lazy we plop in bed and watch Netflix until we pass out (or maybe I do that… oops).
One thing that usually gets pushed aside is showing our appreciation to our partners. It’s nothing to feel guilty about, it happens with everyone at one point in time. You’ve been together for years, and things become a little stagnant in the romance department. Trust me, I get it. Work, a family, rereading the Harry Potter series.
We can get a little hectic and put our relationship low on the todo list. After all, they’ll be there for life…right?
This doesn’t make you a horrible person. This makes you a human being. Even with family members, we will forget to call and not always say thank you simply because they love us and we love them. It can be difficult to balance our work life with our relationships.
While your loved ones, for the most part, know you appreciate them, it is still nice to BE appreciated from time to time. If you feel yourself slacking, here are a few things to show you care and appreciate your significant other.
Want to show them some appreciation by date night? I got you covered. These healthy and fun activities are not just great for Valentine’s Day, but every date night!
Cleaning the house to show your appreciation.
This is a simple one that people definitely forget. For my mother’s birthday, I was a little cash poor so, instead of buying a gift, I wrote her an endearing note and cleaned her house spotless while she was working.
Not only did she tear up at the gesture, she truly loved it more than some of the gifts I have purchased for her.
Gifts are great, but the thought behind it is even greater. Coming home after a long work week to a clean house is definitely a heartwarming feeling for anyone. You don’t need money to make someone smile; you simply need to do something FOR them that they might not have time to do themselves.
Say ‘I love you’ more often.
As a child, we were taught to end each conversation with “I love you.” I follow this motto every day with all of my loved ones. Not to turn this tragic but you never know if this is the last time you talk to a loved one.
It does not matter if we just had a huge argument, or I called to see what we want for dinner. At the end of each conversation or before bed each night, I always say, “I love you” to my significant other.
I can personally tell you if you have kids that they do notice these little things, and it stays with them throughout life. While people say those three words are overused, I believe the opposite is true.
We don’t overuse it, we use it without meaning behind the words. When you use it with love in your heart, it can be heard a million times over and still never get old.
Let them off the leash from time to time.
This sounds a little demeaning, but it gets the point across. I see relationships where a partner wants to go out and have a drink, and the other gets upset about this. They are with you and love you. This does not mean that you own every minute of their life.
My fiance and I love each other when we are together but have enough trust and respect to give each other ‘alone time.’
It is a fact of the universe; no one likes being smothered. There is such a thing as spending too much time together. Besides, our friends and family need to be added to the mix of priorities.
Don’t be that person who forces your partner to pick between them and their friends or family. I promise one day they won’t pick you. It might not be spoken, but giving that space is appreciated to a loved one.
This doesn’t mean you cannot enjoy time with their friends or family either. I love hanging out with my fiance and his family. This appreciation tip is more meant to let them know that if they want a night with friends, that is okay.
Surprise them with intimacy.
Not like jump out of a closet and jump them; this is not seductive, it is just scary. Usually, in a relationship, one person is more significant in ‘setting the mood’ than the other.
While not a bad thing, I can assure you they appreciate it when the tables are turned. When one person has to start things up every time, it might make them feel you are not attracted to them in that way.
Fatigue happens, and we are not always in the mood; that is okay. Switching it up occasionally is healthy for a long-lasting relationship.
Don’t have a high sex drive due to a hormonal disorder? Totally understandable. I recently talked about this in my natural remedies for PCOS. You can try maca powder, exercise, and different supplements to help balance your hormones.
Personally, I use all these as well as the motto, more sex=high libido. It seems odd, but the more you indulge in the act, the more you’ll crave it. Try it out and see for yourself. I doubt your significant other will mind this experiment.
Cook dinner for two to show your appreciation.
With fast food and restaurants everywhere, we let eating together become more of a necessity than a romantic gesture. There have been times we will go out to eat just due to pure laziness, and there is nothing romantic about it.
One thing that has always been appreciated is walking in the door and seeing my partner cooking a nice dinner for us. Food is needed to survive, why not make it mean something as well.
You can even make it a two-person act. I absolutely love cooking dinner with my fiance. We joke, dance around, and make some fantastic food. It’s a tremendous bonding experience that both of us enjoy.
Leave a sweet note around the house.
Since little, I was big on notes. It has that old romantic gesture of a love note that makes everyone swoon a little bit. If I’m leaving for a couple of days or just have been too busy to really talk with my partner, I will leave a short note on the bed about how much I love him or something to that extent.
Letters are often forgotten about but are more potent than you would think. Sometimes we cannot bring into words how we are feeling but can write them on paper. This is a fantastic way to show your appreciation to a loved one.
Having that physical piece of paper to hold and read has an endearing feel that everyone can appreciate.
Even if it’s a little sticky note on the bathroom mirror or an E-note on their phone, taking those extra seconds out the day will cheer them up and make their day that much brighter.
Do something they like To Show Your Appreciation.
We all have similar likes as well as different likes. This is what makes a relationship diverse and exciting. There are a lot of activities I hate doing that my partner loves.
To show my love, I will occasionally go with him on specific outings that I know he loves to show that I care about his likes and hobbies. Even if you don’t necessarily enjoy them, you won’t regret the decision. At the end of the day, you will enjoy being with them and knowing they are enjoying themselves.
For instance, I’ve been going fishing more frequently. Believe it or not, I’ve been enjoying the experience. While I never was big on this adventure, I do love my fiance. By being with him and enjoying the day together, I, in turn, enjoy myself.
Making someone else happy can be the happiest thing you give yourself.
It doesn’t take much to show your appreciation. The point is to think of your loved one and set aside time to make them feel special. Even if that means you have to spend a night doing something you might not enjoy as much (like rock climbing for me), it will be worth it when you see the smile you bring to their face.
What is something you do for your significant other or family member to show you care? Do you do anything I mentioned above? Let me know in the comments below or over on my contact page!
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